Friday, April 29, 2005

They Don’t Make Them Like That Anymore

He always tries to get the door for women. He cleans the snow off of his wife’s, daughters and stepdaughters cars in the morning. He will even warm up their cars up if there is time. He likes to surprise his family with breakfast in bed on Saturdays; he is legendary for his waffles. He can change the oil in the car and build walls to finish the basement. He plays with his grandchildren; he tries to teach them the piano and French when they spend time together; to him, they are a delight. He is willing to change his grandson’s diaper if it needs to be. He holds firm to the notion of chivalry, believes in God, importance of family, he is giving and kind, loves and shows his hurt .....this is just an little of what makes him an amazing man. He lives without really saying much, I think he believes his actions are louder than any words can be. They are.

My dad is an amazing man. I never really noticed how amazing until I watched him with my children. Our relationship is much different now that I have kids of my own. All those little things that my dad would do, I thought just to annoy me, no longer bother me so much. I see my father in a totally different light now. I don’t judge him as harshly anymore because life has taught me it isn’t always simple; I know he has tried to do the best he can. I only hope someday my kids can see me the same way, not perfect but doing the best I can.

15 comments:

  1. What a nice tribute, Rachel. Your dad sounds like a great man. Who can strive more more than doing the best we can? Trying to do the right thing is as close as we humans can get to actually doing it.

    I can't wait to see my parents and my husband's parents with their first grandchild.

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  2. Hey Rachel- great blog. It's cool that you've taken the time to SEE your father for the person that he is. Nothing brings out the best in people quite as well as little children. I love watching my parents with our son. It's really quite funny and very tender. (Pregnancy is going well, thank you). I haven't been blogging much lately but I have been enjoying your blog spot.

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  3. You are very lucky to have grown up with and to have known your father. Mine left when I was three and I never saw him again.

    Yes, very fortunate indeed.

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  4. This is such a lovely tribute to your dad. Thanks for sharing. You're quite right ~ we don't really appreciate our parents until we're old enough to realize all the trials they've had to go through with us. I think what makes watching our parents interact with our own children so special is that it allows us to step back and truly recall just how tender they were with us at those ages.
    Thanks for the lovely read this morning!

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  5. Very nice, I enjoy your writing!

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  6. I'm going to be a completely useless father one day. I know how to cook and that's about all.

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  7. You brought a smile on my face on this Monday morning. Thank you for the heartfelt words.

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  8. i love you post. I have a father who hasn't even bothered to find out my phone number let alone worry if there has ever been snow on my car...

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  9. I hope to be more and more like your father as I get older. He sounds like an excellent role model for men everywhere, and I'm thankful that you've had him as your dad.

    You're a great writer. Keep it up!

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  10. No posts since 4.29? I'm going through Rachel Withdrawel!

    Hope all is well with you. Please post soon!

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  11. Thank you everyone for the kind words. I can't believe a week has gone by, where did it go and how did I miss it?

    Dan- I am sure you will be a great dad. Cooking is key and in your posts you have proven that you like kid friendly experiments. They will think you are cool, if 'they' are in the plan that is.

    J - I think my dad is a great role model simply because he tries without attitude so many people get these days. He is far from perfect but I love him for trying. BTW you sound so much like a friend I have, I could see him saying the same things. Freaky (not in a bad way).

    Thanks for the words of encouragement about the writing, there are days I doubt myself. I really appreciate it on those days I am not all that sure or think I'm crazy.

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  12. Phoenix - I feel your sorrow in the loss of your father. It is a hole that can never be filled completely. I undestand more than you know, even though I didn't lose my dad.

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  13. My dad wasn't like yours but he was special to me. We lost him several years ago and all still miss him.

    I'm so glad you saw the small ways he showed his love for his family and appreciated him.

    My mate is the finest example of mixing manhood and gentleness I know. He loves his children and mine as his own. He gives me most of the courtesies that many lose after the "boyfriend phase". He has nursed me through a heart attack and a hip replacement not only cheerfully but with flowers on my trays for meals and a smile each time I needed to ask for a beverage or assistance. He keeps my motorcycle and truck running. He plays with babies, ball with the grand boys, taught his girls to ride motorcycles and change their oil, ran off bad boyfriends, is taking my mother and her motorhome to FL next week and loves me every day. He is loyal to his friends and kind to children, dogs and animals.

    God bless all the fine men in the world like him, may they show the way to at least one boy to follow in their footsteps.

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  14. Valerie - Your mate sounds like a blessing and that you appreciate it. Thank you for the kind words. I am sure your mate got just as an amazing woman as he is a man.

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  15. Wow Rachel... What an honor!! The best gift a Father could receive from his daughter. I'm proud of my brother and I know all you've said is true of him!! He's lucky to have you...

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